25 Things I've learnt before 25!

On Monday (June 3rd) I had the best day of turning 25. That's quarter of a century old, I can't quite believe it. Makes me wonder how fast life is going but I've learnt so much over my 25 years on this planet so I'm joining the bandwagon and sharing what I've been lucky enough to learn. 

1. Love Yourself. Comparing yourself to other people isn't worth it. Learn to love your flaws and know they don't make you a shitty person. Embrace your body; your love handles, your belly, your pancake botty or even your uneven boobies. Nobody really cares at the end of the day so love what makes you, you.

2. Work isn't and shouldn't be your first priority. I've learnt when to take time off and say no to work. Don't to make it all about work. You miss out on so much working 24/7 for people who don't even care about you. If no one is willing to put you as a priority within your job, don't do it either.

3. Mums are ALWAYS right. If my mum is reading this she will be like "hell yeah I am" lol, no matter what, always listen to your mum whether its about friendships, relationships or life in general. She's never wrong.

4. Friendships come and go. Probably learnt more over the last year and the true meaning behind the word 'friend'. I've accepted that it's better to have a few true friends that support and love you than having fake ones who don't give a crap about you.

5. It's okay to ask for help. No matter how little, don't be ashamed to ask for help. Whether it's to put a washing line up or it's because you need someone to talk to. At some point in life, we've all been in that same boat.

6. Not everyone will like you & that's absolutely fine. I'm often surrounded by people who don't like me every single day, who act fake as the next to my face and if we're being honest... I really don't care who likes me or not anymore as it's not my problem :) 

7. Know your worth. Don't stand for anything less to what you want/don't want. I'm still learning and implementing this into my life and I'm happy to finally be practising what I preach. 

8. Prioritise your health. Never take it for granted, look after yourself. You only have one life.

9. There is no timeline for your life. If you're not where you want to be right now, that's fine! You will get to where you need to be in your own time. Forget what everyone else is doing and focus on yourself.

10. It's okay to walk away from toxic people/ situations. Whether it's a boy or girl you love, friends who you think you can't live without or a job that sucks the life out of you. IF IT DOESN'T MAKE YOU HAPPY, WALK AWAY. 

11. Live in the moment. See life away from the screens, it's better that way and doesn't hurt your neck as much.

12. You can't please everyone. Don't waste your time trying to please others, it's an endless game of Tom and Jerry but less cute.

13. Social Media is a highlight reel, not real life. Don't get caught up in it, not everything is as it seems nor is everything 'behind the scenes' revealed. 

14. Binge watching Greys Anatomy is a must. It will honestly change you and show emotions you didn't even know you had. Not even kidding.

15. Therapy isn't a bad thing. Speaking about how you feel to a complete stranger shouldn't be frowned upon. If anything it will help you become a better version of yourself and you see yourself/your struggles through a stranger's eyes. 

16. Not everyone wants you to fail. Can't stress this enough. There are many supportive people in the world who want you to win in life. There's more wanting you to achieve your goals than fail them, so aim high and you will get there.

17. Always listen to your gut feeling. It's never wrong. If you feel uneasy about something, someplace or someone, don't ignore it. It's probably protecting you more than you think. 

18. Everybody you meet knows something you don't. The best people to be around are those who you can chat to for hours and who have some epic stories to tell. 

19. Finding who you are isn't a bad thing. Whether you break from a relationship/friendship or decide to have a spa weekend for one, finding yourself isn't a bad thing. Learn about yourself as it's so exciting and insightful. 

20. Appreciate the little things. Appreciate the roof over your head, how lucky you are to still be breathing, how you can still tell someone you love them because life is too short. We never know when our last day will be.

21. Be the person you want to attract. I've always thought I attracted arseholes because at one point in my life I was one. What you put into the universe, you get back. Why not reinforce it into the people you want around you? :) 

22. The best memories don't have to involve alcohol. Since leaving university, I've realised how crap drinking made me feel for days after, how I couldn't really remember things and how it triggered my anxiety, recently this happened and it just made me wake up. You can still enjoy life sober and to be honest, from personal experience, you create the best memories <3 

23. You'll get broody for either a dog/cat or a baby at some point in your early 20s. Fact. 

24. Not everything you lose is a loss. Everything happens for a reason, right? 

25. Smiling makes the world a happy place. Smiling at strangers is the best feeling, you can see how much it makes their day. Especially with the elder folk, it's probably the only interaction they get once a day, so smile at people :) 

So there you have it! What have you learnt in life so far?

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Why It's Vital To Surround Yourself With People Who Inspire You | Social Media Edition

It's so important to follow people who inspire you or encourage you to be the best version of yourself. There's nothing worse than following a pessimistic 'influencer' on Social Media for them obstructive to their following 24/7 over the littlest thing. This post appeared here first on Just me, Jaydee xo.

I recently unfollowed someone who I used to love watching due to them being cynical about particular things and became so repetitive it actually started to affect my mental state. By that I mean, it began making me demoralised towards most things, depressed and just not a nice person to be around. Just note, that being constantly bleak about everything in life does affect those who support you, are around you etc. Crazy, I know but it is really happening. So, I made this rule that I'll only follow anyone that truly inspires me. 

I'm not saying people aren't allowed to be negative, as we all have bad days. There's just a difference with being real and raw with your following and then there's constantly looking for reasons to be negative and unhappy with the littlest of things. It's sad to see and most of all it's the people who are considered 'followers' who suffer more. Mental Health is real which some people online, still don't seem to realise and it's hard to watch.
But there's the other hand of people that are talking/thinking/acknowledging mental health a bit more frequently across social media platforms who are choosing to educate themselves on it, I completely stand by that. However, it's up to us as 'followers' to keep our social media relatively positive so it doesn't make us unhappy and so we don't compare our lives to the people we visualise as 'perfect' in order to feel shitty about our own life. Following pessimistic individuals will cause this to happen.  It's vital to keep our mental health as a top priority and follow those that make us smile like a Cheshire cat and feel happy like when you're passionate about something.

So that being said, I have selected two YouTubers/Instagram Babes that I currently adore to watch and want to share their links as they're so down to earth, real and raw people. It's definitely lifted my Mental Health and I always feel somewhat happy with the content these girls produce. 

Meggan Grubb

I've been following Meggan Grubb since 2017 and first found her channel through her 10,000 calorie challenge video. Crazy to think it was that long ago. I began to watch her other videos as I just saw how motivated she is and found her personality similar to mine. Watching her evolve over the last two years has been the best as she's always so smiley and positive, expresses herself well when she's feeling anxious or having a rubbish day and I can just relate on so many levels. Meggan is definitely someone I adore and will continue to watch on YouTube as her quirkiness picks me up after a hard day. It's rare you find somebody who is real and raw on social media and just has amazing energy. If you don't follow her on Instagram (@meggangrubb) you definitely should! 

Sarah's Day aka Sezzy 

I've recently just come across Sarah's Day this year. After seeing her pregnancy post online and the photo of her little love, Fox, I checked out her Instagram and instantly was like "this girl is so cool!" so I went to her youtube, watched some videos and I'm hooked. Also, the Australian accent is just HEAVEN. Sarah's whole vibe is what I live for, so upbeat and sassy, kind-hearted and inspiring. I was currently sat in a queue at 4:00am waiting for some of her activewear when writing this post, now if that's not dedication, don't know what is. I'm all for supporting other women and watching them grow within their journey. I admire the vibe this woman is bringing so many people around the world and her strength through her hardships with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) is admirable as it's something I'm currently having tested with my doctors. Sarah's youtube is full advice and it's just a blessing to have discovered her channel. After admiring Sarah's lifestyle and motivation to keep fit, I've used some of her tips to help me shed a few lbs and the results have been good so far! If you don't follow this girl, then please do! She's really inspired me to not only change my lifestyle but gave me hope with a lot of things as well.

What have you noticed about the people you follow, do you find yourself doubting yourself? If the answer is yes, then it's time for a revamp of your following/friends lists!

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5 ways to overcome a tough day

Photo Credit: Jaydee Kelly (me)

What do you consider a hard day? How do you unwind?

These are the questions I ask myself when I have had an unsettling day. Whether that's at work, shopping or spending the day at home. A hard day can also just be suffering from mental health which happened to me quite a lot in the last couple of months. 

1. Step away from social media

Whether you're watching Snapchat stories, reading on Twitter/Facebook or scrolling endlessly on Instagram, put your phone down and step away from any aspect of social media. I recently found myself on social media after a hard day and all I did was tear myself apart, comparing my "crap" life to other people's and to be honest, it's just not worth it. Nobodies life is perfect and social media is a false representation of what people live like. So step back, put your phone or laptop away and find other ways to focus your mind. 

2. Listen to your favourite music 

A song that has really helped make a hard day more bearable is Move you by Kelly Clarkson as the lyrics are just... comforting. As sad as the song is when you're singing you just forget everything. This song has helped me recently through the transition of leaving a job which destroyed me as a person, took away the excitement from my life and just drained me mentally. My boyfriend introduced me to this song & now I am obsessed. Highly recommend it to anyone who is finding it difficult to unwind after a tough day.

3. Read a book 

The best books to read are the ones you can get lost in, those that leave you in awe. I am a HUGE Nicholas Sparks fan and his writing just makes me feel so happy especially dealing with a difficult day. One of my all-time favourites is "A walk to remember" - read it and you'll see why :) 

4. Take a very long shower/bath

Washing the stress you feel away is the best feeling in the world. Spend those extra 10 minutes washing your hair, or singing so badly your housemates/neighbours bang on the walls to shout "shut up" to you, give yourself a nice soak in the bath and throw as many bath bombs in as you can. Just have that time to bring yourself back to normality and relax. 

5. Write it all down 

If you have a journal, great... write in it. Or if you have a blog, then write it down. Personally, I put all my stresses into scriptwriting. I turn my "hard day" into a story and expand on it for the characters I have created. I explore my creative side and use it to my advantage to make myself feel better & to dramatise some plots for my scripts. It's definitely a good way to focus your mind creatively and to spend time doing something you love. 

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xo

5 ways to improve your life | 2016

Firstly I am no expert nor am I portraying myself to be one, but throughout October I struggled with a lot of things within myself, mentally, physically, financially etc. & It was a draining month hence why I've objected to doing an October Favourites post, as I wasn't loving very much.
If you're open to change then continue reading as this is what worked for me, it may not work for everyone but I'm hopeful that it could impact someone's life at least.

1) Look after yourself 
It's very important to look after yourself, starting with you. Paint your nails, dye your hair or spend 3 hours in the bath until you look like a shrivelled prune lol, either way, do something that makes you feel good. I sometimes do my makeup different or position my hair a different way to boost my confidence if I'm having a bad day. Go running or walking for 2 hours a day to clear your mind, create a playlist on your phone of all the best songs you listen to and just lose yourself in it. Eat the correct foods that your body requires but also have a little cheat day to balance it out. I'm not food god, but it's what keeps your body going. Put yourself first and look after YOU. 

2) Cut toxic people out of your life
Why am I saying that? Because negativity is a strong and powerful drainer which consumes 99.9% of your energy and quite frankly it's horrible. Having people who are negative and toxic in your life changes the way you look at things and how you choose to live your life. Having a more positive mindset will help you achieve more goals and targets that you set yourself, rather than pushing good things away with a negative approach. Toxic people target the most vulnerable people and take advantage of them being in a low mindset, so making sure you're clear of them types of people is what will make your life more happy and free. 

3) Do what makes you happy 
Stop trying to please everybody, because you're not here for them. Ever heard of the saying, "You're here for a reason, find your own path" ? well, do exactly that and you can't go wrong. Find something that makes you happy, like blogging, exercising, dancing etc. Anything that makes you feel some sort of release and brings a smile to your face. You only have one life, so live it the way YOU want and make fantastic memories. 

4) Be a kind person
Whether it's helping a little old lady over the road or donating spare money to charity. Do something nice for someone else by being a kind person. This world lacks kind hearted people as there is so much hate surrounding it at the moment. So when you wake up be positive within yourself and make someone else smile that day. Even if you say good morning, it will make their entire day. OR better yet, be kind to yourself. Treat yourself to something you've wanted for a long time, take yourself for a lovely chilled out run/walk or surround yourself with good friends and family. It helps, trust me. :) 

5) Love who you are 
Before anyone else can love you, you need to learn to love yourself. Accept your flaws, your imperfections and embrace them. They don't make you a bad person, they make you unique. Loving who you are is NOT vain, it's appreciating that you're happy with yourself and comfortable in being who you are, especially when around other people. Love your personality, body, mind and creativeness because one day you'll look back and wonder why you didn't. 

I hope this helps at least one person. It is a long process but absolutely worth it. These points have helped me take a step back from my life and remember the importance of it. Even if you include at least one into your life, it will make a great difference :)

Love Jaydee xo